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| Mariah, my 6 year old about to turn 7 in a couple days! |
(I picked this out this morning, she was actually okay with it)
So me and Mariah are constantly arguing about what she wears.
Whatever she picks out I dislike what ever I pick out she dislikes.
I mean everything she has I approve of, of course cause Im the one that buys it.
But she wants to wear tanks and camis or big (prom like dresses) or non weather appropriate things.
Oh and our mornings.. they are horrible.
She has even went as far as hiding the clothes I set out for her at night!
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So I did some research and found this...
Picky Dresser
Vicki says her 7-year-old daughter, Raelee, is very selective about what clothes she wears and the way she looks. She changes her clothes repeatedly and throws a temper tantrum every morning if her outfits don't perfectly match and her shoes aren't just right. Is this a sign of something more serious? "I just want her to be happy. I don't want her to worry about the way she looks at 7," the mom says.
Dr. Phil tells Vicki, "I think this is a little girl who, on the upside, is taking pride in how she looks. She pays attention to it. It matters to her if she has a spot on her shirt." Dr. Phil tells Vicki to consider letting Raelee have an impact on what clothing is bought for her and maybe having fewer clothing choices would help.
Dr. Sears says, "She has some anxiety about how she dresses, and I think you're treating that with more anxiety. You're yelling at her, her brothers are yelling at her, and she's kind of getting the message that รข€˜I'm not good at dressing myself, so I'm going to have to really obsess about how I look.'" He recommends that Vicki ask her daughter for fashion advice and opinion when she gets dressed, to take the focus off herself.
Dr. Phil says he and Robin let their son, Jay, wear his Hawaiian Jams shorts and red high-top sneakers without laces every day when he was young, because it made him happy. "You go with it, and they'll move through it. She has a fashion sense and a desire. Embrace that. Embrace her nuances, but you don't want to fight her individuality here. You're picking the wrong battle."
- Don't fight individuality
- Do embrace a child's nuances
And it hit me Im choosing the WRONG BATTLES!
So I will back off a bit, I definitely think a good cleaning of her closet will help too!
Well just wanted to share.. Im sure Im not the only mommy that struggles with this.. well not anymore, lets hope <3